The Power of Dreams and Motivation in Business and Life
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How Leadership Trains You to Stay Awake
If you own a business, lead a team, or carry a lot of responsibility, your brain becomes incredibly good at finding problems.
During the day, that ability makes you effective.
Someone calls out sick.
A customer has an issue.
A permit gets delayed.
An employee needs direction.
You learn to make decisions quickly because that's the job.
The problem is that your nervous system doesn't always recognize when the workday ends.
It keeps scanning.
It keeps solving.
It keeps asking, "What am I forgetting?"
This feels like another chapter in something I've been learning over the past year. In an earlier post about learning how to carry stress, I wrote that stress itself isn't the enemy. The challenge is carrying it in a way that doesn't consume every part of your life.
After years of putting out fires, I accidentally trained my nervous system to believe that staying alert was productive.
At 2:30 in the morning, it isn't.
There isn't a single problem I've ever solved better because I stayed awake worrying about it.
Lately, instead of trying to force myself to sleep, I've been practicing something different.
Not better sleep.
Better rest.
That shift also builds on the adult sleep routine I've been developing. Good sleep doesn't start when your head hits the pillow. It starts with giving your mind permission to slow down before you ever climb into bed.
Five Reminders That Help Me Stop Overthinking at Night
These aren't magic.
They're simply reminders that give my brain permission to stop working.
1. My only responsibility for the next eight hours is to rest.
Whether I fall asleep immediately or an hour from now isn't actually my job.
Rest is.
Sleep arrives on its own.
Trying to force it usually makes it harder.
2. I just need one thing that's more interesting than my own thoughts.
Sometimes that's quiet music.
Sometimes it's a podcast played softly enough that I don't have to pay attention.
Sometimes it's simply the sound of a fan.
Not exciting enough to keep me awake.
Just interesting enough that my mind lets go of tomorrow for a while.
3. For the next few minutes, my only job is to notice my breathing.
Not to solve tomorrow.
Not to replay yesterday.
Just breathe.
If sleep comes, great.
If it doesn't, that's okay too.
4. I'm just continuing to rest.
I used to think there was a moment where I had to switch from being awake to "trying to sleep."
Now I think of it differently.
I'm already resting.
Closing my eyes.
Lying comfortably.
Breathing.
Sleep is welcome whenever it decides to arrive.
5. My shift is over. Nothing needs solving tonight.
This has become my favorite reminder.
Of course there will still be problems tomorrow.
There isn't a single problem that becomes easier because I rehearse it at three in the morning.
The decisions will still be there.
The emails will still be there.
The responsibilities will still be there.
The only thing I can do tonight is give tomorrow the best version of myself.
My shift is over.
Leadership Requires Recovery Too
One lesson I've been learning over the past year is that carrying stress well doesn't mean carrying it all the time.
Leadership asks us to stay calm when everyone else is anxious.
To make decisions with incomplete information.
To solve problems before they become bigger problems.
That's part of the job.
Recovery is part of the job too.
That's one reason I've become intentional about creating environments that encourage recovery instead of constant stimulation. Whether it's my office, my home, or my bedroom at night, I've learned that creating a sanctuary at home isn't about decorating. It's about giving your nervous system a place where it no longer has to stay on duty.
The firefighter eventually leaves the firehouse.
The surgeon eventually goes home.
The coach eventually walks off the field.
Business owners deserve to clock out too—even if only for the night.
I'm still practicing this.
Some nights are easier than others.
But every time I remind myself that my shift is over, I get a little better at leaving tomorrow where it belongs.
The work will still be there in the morning.
A rested mind is how I hope to meet it.
“Know what’s enough. Build what matters.”
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